Liars exposed

It seems to be a big week for people who felt the need to inflate or completely contrive their past to be exposed for what they are.

First, Misha Defonseca admitted that she was not raised by wolves during the Holocaust.

Today, I open MSN and find that Robert Irvine from Dinner:Impossible has admitted to being creative with his resume.  He didn’t cook for the British Royals, he didn’t cook for U.S. Presidents.  Does that make him less entertaining to watch?  No. Is it disappointing, very much so.  I didn’t watch because of who he did or didn’t prepare meals for in the past.  I watched his show because it was entertaining.  I enjoyed seeing him take on challenges and succeed or fail.  Now, because he felt the need to lie on his resume, he will no longer be on the show.
The article I read did say that execs may review their decision at the end of the season, but I’m not sure how I would feel if they did change their minds.  He lied and shouldn’t get away with it just because he’s successful and draws in big numbers for the show.  What message does that send to younger people who are at the point where they are willing to do anything to land a great job?

This isn’t the first time that Food Network has dealt with personalities on their network coming forward to say they hadn’t been truthful.  I was a huge fan of Jag, aka Joshua Garcia, on Next Food Network Star.  He was absolutely adorable, charismatic, and had claimed to have served in Afghanistan and said he graduated from The New York Restaurant School.  Both were lies.  He was exposed after the season started and it wasn’t until the very end that he came clean.  He could have won the show.  He could be a star right now but he lied.  Luckily he grew up a bit, admitted to what he had done, and withdrew himself from the competition.

One has to wonder, do people who do this wear pads in their pants to ease the pain of kicking themselves daily?

V is for Visualization

Many people say that visualizing is a good stepping stone to success.  I think part of my problem is visualization.  I can see myself doing all these great things but I either don’t know how or just don’t follow through on them.  The potential for greatness is there, now I just have to take the steps to realize my goals.  Oh, and I think it would help to realize which of the visualizations to follow.  I think a big setback is the “I don’t know what to do so I’m going to try it all” mentality.

I would love to write.  I’m not sure that will ever be more than a hobby, but I need to work on honing my skills so I can share my work with others if I choose without being so insecure.

I still think that as a “big person goal” I would do well with marketing.  I already do quite a bit of marketing for my current company and I enjoy it.  Looking at the numbers, finding out what is selling, what isn’t selling but we want it to, and figuring out how to draw in more business stimulates my mind.  I have the application on the table to return to school in the fall, now I just have to fill it out and see if we’ll be able to swing it financially.

I enjoy transcription, but as I mentioned before, I’m not sure I can drum up enough business on my own to be as successful as I would like to be with that.  One benefit of transcription is that I would have the flexibility to set my own hours, determine my own income, etc.  If I wanted, I could build up the business to the point where I am once again an at-home mom.  If that was to happen, I think it would be essential to find playgroups to get involved with.  I need adult interaction and Khaila needs kid interaction.  We get along well, but I don’t think we’re enough for each other.

It’s still a loss

Very recently, we found out that we were expecting our second child.  Unfortunately, that news was coupled with the fact that we were probably losing our second child.  It wasn’t planned, it wasn’t expected, but it was what it was.  Today, we found out that I am going to miscarry, my numbers dropped by more than half rather than doubling as they would for a healthy pregnancy.

It’s amazing to me how supportive everyone has been.  This time around, I’ve only heard, “Well, there must have been a reason” one time.  I did get one “Maybe it’d be better if it didn’t work out since it’s not a good time for you guys” but I know that was from someone who knows the ups and downs of our marriage and I considered the source and promptly put it out of my head.  The best comments have been “I’m thinking of you” and “I don’t even know what to say.”  Both are very honest responses and both are more supportive than the multitude of things people say to try and make a woman feel better.

No matter if you were trying or not, if it’s a “good time” or not, or anything else, it’s still a loss.  Were we trying to get pregnant?  No.  Did we WANT to be pregnant?  Not at this time in our marriage.  Did we allow ourselves to hope that things would work out for the best and we’d be welcoming a new little one?  Yes, we did.  A blessing is a blessing no matter when it comes.  I just hope and pray that when the time is right and we are trying that we will be successful and Khaila can know the joy of being the big sister someday!